Sex 101: Big Girl Sex in Romance

th_d02b28a3 I have been reading pet peeves lately in blogs online and some are amusing, some I agree with, some not so much. There was one that opened my eyes. There was a commentary about sex that sort of sponsored this post. I think the idea of what constitutes a big girl relates part of it. If you’re a size 12—you’re not big. You’re normal. Size 16—you’re on the cusp. But if you ask any woman of size—they’ll tell you size 18 and up are BBW (big, beautiful women), and anything less fits into normal guidelines. Which brings me back to sex and us big girls. Sex isn’t like what you see for porn stars or even on the big screen. Though when you read about it in romance novels, you wonder– how realistic is it? Or is it? Which is why I decided to finally devote a blog post to sex and sex toys to those who are of the goddess size.  Continue reading

SexEd: History of Vibrators

History can be fun. Researching certain historical sex toys even more enjoyable.  You might be wondering what caused this fun loving moment for me. It came about when my grandparents passed away and my mom and I were going through some of the old things in their basement. One of the things I discovered happened to be in a special trunk. It was small, compact, but labelled “For Health Use Only.” Oh yeah, my curiosity said, “What is this? How could this be?” So I took the trunk over to where my mom was in the laundry area of the basement and opened it up. Looking back, I shouldn’t have done that. Yet, on another level, it was worth seeing the look on my mom’s face. 

BDSM 101: Kink for You

It’s been a while since Mistress Cyn has graced her presence on these pages. I’ve been debating on whether people want to see more on not just BDSM but about kinky sex. Imagine my surprise when I got back from Dragon Con and more to find out the answer is YES! So, I thought on the things I’ve been learning recently, and I wanted to talk about kink. Why? Because kink covers such a huge range from the mild to the wild and back again. These days for authors– they can go as mild as sex against the wall to as far out as pretty hardcore BDSM as long as it’s done well. (I won’t go into 50 Shades of Grey. I just won’t.)  Continue reading

BDSM Blog Hop: How much Kink makes BDSM?

So, I’m sitting here way early in the morning, yawning and grinning. I’ve finished mad edits on a 70k book and I’m happy it’s done. Yet, I’m looking forward to working on my next BDSM book set in the same universe as Cupid Shoot, She Scores. I’ve compared the stories with the sex and though this contemporary book is hot and heavy, there is some BDSM techniques in there, though they’re subtly played upon in my upcoming release, Love Games. Are you shocked?  Continue reading

What’s In a Kiss?

This often isn’t an issue with men, but with women– watch out! There’s something about a kiss that can bring a group of women to their knees. At the same time, there’s the whole rating of what makes a kiss good, better and GREAT. (What, you thought we didn’t? Silly men!) In fact, women rate kisses a lot. We even rate kisses between men too. Some of our favourite kisses are between two men. One of my favourite is the one between Captain Jack Harkness and Captain John on Torchwood’s “Kiss Kiss Bang Bang” episode. Can we say it’s just damn hot?! More importantly, it has many many of the necessary aspects that make a kiss hot.  Continue reading