Erotic Cyn for your senses

I was talking with a friend the other day, when the idea of “What is sexy?” came up in our conversation. Considering I write erotic romance and she’s an editor of said romances, it was an interesting discussion. But more than that, it made me think on how much is physical oriented and how much is oriented otherwise- towards attributes we think are sexy. More »

I was talking with a friend the other day, when the idea of “What is sexy?” came up in our conversation. Considering I write erotic romance and she’s an editor of said romances, it was an interesting discussion. But more than that, it made me think on how much is physical oriented and how much is oriented otherwise- towards attributes we think are sexy. More »

This week, we’re taking a walk on the wild side of sex. For many people, the word Fetish means something taboo, something to be looked down at, but in reality, we all have our own fetishes–even if we think we’re Mary Jane Normal. But let’s look at the question that decided this topic for this week.

Mistress Cynnara- I have this thing for women in high heeled leather boots. The look of their legs, the way they stride about in them turns me on. My gf says this means I’m a fetishist, but I tell her I’m not into weird kinky sex. What does it really mean to have a fetish?– Signed, loving women in boots More »

Over the past 2 weeks, we’ve spoken about orgasms for women– both clitoral and vaginal. I’ve talked about how they can be done separately or together. We know that arousal is potent for both men and women. Sometimes it’s hard to achieve that satisfaction at the same time when men are the microwaves of the sexual world and women are the crock pots. Which is why sometimes while reading romances and having the couple orgasm together makes me giggle. I’ve written about it, but I’ve also used my knowledge of what it takes to make it happen. So, today, let’s discuss orgasms of the male kind. More »

This week, we’re talking about Orgasms– this time going deep into the heart of Vaginaland. There are a few things to discuss when it comes to vaginal orgasms. Some women never experience them, while others are blessed with the ability to come multiple amount of times with that penetration. More »

This week is an interesting topic, one that doesn’t have just one answer– but many. But I digress, let’s start with the question and go from there. Because of the nature of this question, I’ll be breaking down my responses over this week, next week and the week after. Why? Because otherwise it’d be a long, long post to read!

Orgasms are considered the end all, be all of sex. But when you read many magazines, they talk about the various orgasms and how to get them. Yet, no matter what I try, I can’t seem to have them but only one way. Is this wrong? Or are there other ways to experience the joys of orgasms?— Orgasmically Challenged More »

Welcome to the second installment of “Ask Mistress Cynnara” where I talk sex, how to do it well, how to learn more, and some of the things you can do with and without a partner. If you wish to ask me a question to answer each week, please feel free to email me at cynnara AT cynnara DOT com (you know the drill). This week’s question is about anal play.

Mistress Cynnara, lately anal play has been getting more mentions, but no one talks about how to do it correctly. The last time my SO tried it on me, it hurt too much for me to enjoy. What aren’t we doing right? –Anally Scared More »

I had debated for a while on what to talk about when it came to sex, sexuality, and more. From toys to BDSM, I’ve either used it, done it, researched it, talked to people to know more about it. So, I decided with the help of some good friends that I should open up my Thursdays for weekly Sex Ed with Mistress Cynnara. This means that you can email me at cynnara AT cynnara DOT com (you know how to make the email work!) and ask anything about sex and sexuality. Be warned, the responses will be detailed, if possible, and quite blunt. So if you’re squeamish or haven’t experienced much sexually, you might be shocked.

So this week, we start with a question: What do you do if you have a higher sex drive than your husband? What can be done so I don’t go insane with sexual need when he doesn’t feel the same? More »