Today’s question was sent to me and I have to admit, it’s a good one because it deals with some concepts that used interchangably with others. So onto this week’s question.
Mistress Cynnara- What is a fetish? Do you have to have one to be kinky or sexy? — Fetishist in the Making, I think Read the rest of this entry »
Today, it’s all about quickies. Some are spur of the moment fuck fests. Some are well planned out for that one moment when you only have a few minutes. Sometimes quickies are the thoughts of one person wanting to do something that the other person will enjoy but will reject if given a chance because it might bring them more pleasure than the other person. Whatever the reason, today’s topic is about the quickie and how to make it work for you! Read the rest of this entry »
Today is a bit special for me. Something happened to me yesterday and I realized I needed to speak on it for all those people who might think that fantasies are nothing but imagination. Yesterday, my male fulfilled one of my biggest fantasies dealing with him. He’s known about this fantasy for a while now, but though he liked having his fantasies fulfilled, he wasn’t sure how I’d feel if I couldn’t have my whole fantasy given to me. Read the rest of this entry »
Last night, I stumbled across a show that not only made me smile, it made me sit up and think about how I view myself sexually. What really made me sit up is that I found Gok not only intriguing, but real. So damn real and he just made me want to kiss him and hug him for being fantastic in how he views both sexes. The show is called “How to Look Good Naked” in both the US and the UK. So that show has influenced today’s topic of discussion.
We’re not all model beautiful nor actor perfect as we see on TV or movies. But how can the average Jane and John feel sexy both in and out of the bedroom?
Scene – Where it’s all happening.
Scene is a term used to describe a preplanned event such as role-play, experimenting with toys, even just a regular session. Scene can also be used at times to describe a special event at a club, private home, etc. Read the rest of this entry »
Bow Before Me and Know that you are—- Submissive
A submissive is a complex creature, just as a Dominant is. The need to submit and give up control to a trusted person is their goal and their need. The stereotype runs to the gelded male on all fours, naked, and begging for mercy, or the naked female who is collared and serving her Master in any degraded way demanded from him. Again, that’s not reality within the BDSM lifestyle, though some have chosen to live that way.
Though you may see versions of this, again, bear in mind SSC. There are more variations than this extreme. What most people unfamiliar with BDSM don’t realize is that a submissive gives power over themselves to a Dominant, yet they still have the ultimate control. How? If they don’t like something, they say their safe word and everything halts immediately. There is no maybe when it comes to this kind of play. It’s either yes, no, or slowly, I’m not sure. Read the rest of this entry »
Let’s hear it for the Dom/me!!
Let’s introduce the Dominant first. The stereotype is either a leather catsuit-clad woman in five inch heeled boots with whip in hand, or the male in leather pants, no shirt, though he may have harness strap-ons, and sometimes wears a mask. Sound familiar at all? According to stereotype, they’re all about control, causing pain, subjugating their submissive until they’re nothing more than pets, right? Read the rest of this entry »
Mistress Cynnara- I know you’re called a mistress because you engage in sexual BDSM. But honestly, what is BDSM? Is it just another form of kink? How do you know if you’re truly into the world of BDSM? — Tie Me Up and Spank Me in Texas
BDSM is a hot topic right now in many areas- from television, books, and more. Why? Because people are realizing that kink and the deeper ingrained needs aren’t just the usual missionary or woman superior sex anymore. What’s more important, great strides have been made, including the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) have declared that BDSM activities are part of normal life, as long as they, like most things, are not taken in the extreme. Read the rest of this entry »
Last week, we talked about sex toys- the kind you use on yourself or on your lover. This week, we’re venturing out slightly, talking about sex equipment- the kind you use to create a scene, restrain a person and more. Yes, today we talk a bit about BDSM sex furniture and how even those who are “vanilla” can enjoy them with their lovers.
Though I’ve not covered about BDSM, I do teach a workshop helping writers learn more about the basics of BDSM and all its components. One of those happens to be scening- where you act out a role play, use toys, and even furniture to create a mood and mindset within the person you’re involved with. So, what are some of the most popular pieces of furniture and how can they be used in less intense play? Read the rest of this entry »
Today, a new question comes in– one that I had to smile over and one that brought back memories of my first time in that regard.
Mistress Cynnara- I love sex, enjoy sex, but my boyfriend has suggested that we bring some toys into our sex life to spice things up a bit. Though I think the idea could be fun, I’m not sure what are the best toys to start with, though I do own my own vibrator. — Toyless in Tacoma Read the rest of this entry »
