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Today’s topic comes from a friend of mine. One I’ve got to admit, had me thinking and wondering how to go about this and not gross people out and how to get people past the Eew factor. So what’s today’s topic?

Dear Mistress Cynnara- I’m a woman who loves sex, but it’s weird, either right before or during my period, it’s the time when I’m the most horny. Why does this happen and how can I convince my male, I want sex and to have him give it to me? — Raging Hormones in the Mountains Read the rest of this entry »

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Last week, we talked about sex toys- the kind you use on yourself or on your lover. This week, we’re venturing out slightly, talking about sex equipment- the kind you use to create a scene, restrain a person and more. Yes, today we talk a bit about BDSM sex furniture and how even those who are “vanilla” can enjoy them with their lovers.

Though I’ve not covered about BDSM, I do teach a workshop helping writers learn more about the basics of BDSM and all its components. One of those happens to be scening- where you act out a role play, use toys, and even furniture to create a mood and mindset within the person you’re involved with. So, what are some of the most popular pieces of furniture and how can they be used in less intense play? Read the rest of this entry »

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Today, a new question comes in– one that I had to smile over and one that brought back memories of my first time in that regard.

Mistress Cynnara- I love sex, enjoy sex, but my boyfriend has suggested that we bring some toys into our sex life to spice things up a bit. Though I think the idea could be fun, I’m not sure what are the best toys to start with, though I do own my own vibrator. —  Toyless in Tacoma Read the rest of this entry »

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I was talking with a friend the other day, when the idea of “What is sexy?” came up in our conversation. Considering I write erotic romance and she’s an editor of said romances, it was an interesting discussion. But more than that, it made me think on how much is physical oriented and how much is oriented otherwise- towards attributes we think are sexy. Read the rest of this entry »

This week’s topic is one close to my heart and though not strictly sexual, it does deal with sex and emotions.

Mistress Cynnara- Recently, my significant other told me that he was polyamorous and that he wanted me and him to consider adding others to our relationship to make it stronger. I’m not quite sure what it means to be polyamorous. Does this mean that he wants another woman without any strings attached?– Poly Unsure Read the rest of this entry »

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This week, we’re taking a walk on the wild side of sex. For many people, the word Fetish means something taboo, something to be looked down at, but in reality, we all have our own fetishes–even if we think we’re Mary Jane Normal. But let’s look at the question that decided this topic for this week.

Mistress Cynnara- I have this thing for women in high heeled leather boots. The look of their legs, the way they stride about in them turns me on. My gf says this means I’m a fetishist, but I tell her I’m not into weird kinky sex. What does it really mean to have a fetish?– Signed, loving women in boots Read the rest of this entry »

I’m sorry I’ve not been around lately, my health has not been great, so I’ve been spending many a day and night sleeping and trying to get healthy. But while doing that, I’ve managed to find that there are a lot of sex questions out there. Some that surprise even me, which means they’re on my list to do.

Mistress Cynnara- My SO and I aren’t really kinky, but we both enjoy what’s commonly called “rough sex”. Some of our friends think that we’re freaks because we like a bit of rough play in our sex. Are we really freakish? —- Roughing and Loving Read the rest of this entry »

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Over the past 2 weeks, we’ve spoken about orgasms for women– both clitoral and vaginal. I’ve talked about how they can be done separately or together. We know that arousal is potent for both men and women. Sometimes it’s hard to achieve that satisfaction at the same time when men are the microwaves of the sexual world and women are the crock pots. Which is why sometimes while reading romances and having the couple orgasm together makes me giggle. I’ve written about it, but I’ve also used my knowledge of what it takes to make it happen. So, today, let’s discuss orgasms of the male kind. Read the rest of this entry »

This week, we’re talking about Orgasms– this time going deep into the heart of Vaginaland. There are a few things to discuss when it comes to vaginal orgasms. Some women never experience them, while others are blessed with the ability to come multiple amount of times with that penetration. Read the rest of this entry »

This week is an interesting topic, one that doesn’t have just one answer– but many. But I digress, let’s start with the question and go from there. Because of the nature of this question, I’ll be breaking down my responses over this week, next week and the week after. Why? Because otherwise it’d be a long, long post to read!

Orgasms are considered the end all, be all of sex. But when you read many magazines, they talk about the various orgasms and how to get them. Yet, no matter what I try, I can’t seem to have them but only one way. Is this wrong? Or are there other ways to experience the joys of orgasms?— Orgasmically Challenged Read the rest of this entry »

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