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Scene – Where it’s all happening.

Scene is a term used to describe a preplanned event such as role-play, experimenting with toys, even just a regular session. Scene can also be used at times to describe a special event at a club, private home, etc.

One particular ‘scene’ isn’t really—it’s a munch. This is where people who are curious meet at a neural place with those who are in the scene to find out more. Normally it’s at a local restaurant so people can relax and eat as they learn more. If you’ve never been to one, I highly recommend it. Why? Here you can ask questions, get to know more about the lifestyle and the various offerings in your area. It makes sense to talk to people who live what you’re writing about. It gives you a realism that would otherwise be lacking.

Scenes between Dom/me and sub can be done in private, or if both parties agree, in public. Usually public scenes have extra rules regarding what can and cannot be done—depending on local laws. Always check the laws in the area you set your book. Even if you make up the town, check the state laws. It’s one of those things that might actually enhance the story, especially if they get caught.

What goes into a scene? Almost anything really. For many, it’s a chance to role-play allowing both people to step outside themselves. That where the costuming comes into play. Most times role-play preparation is done by the Dom, who does consult the sub regarding fantasies, fear, etc. Otherwise it could be spur of the moment, grabbing on something a sub said/did, or didn’t do.

Toys are oft used in scenes. From floggers to strap-ons to St. Andrew’s crosses, various items are used to enhance the sensations and to provoke emotional/physical reactions.

Let me once again bring up about limit lists. Limit lists sound boring. They are lists of likes, dislikes, and maybes. For your characters, this list will make your life easier. Why? Each time you’re choosing different likes, dislikes, and maybes, so there‘s no repeating. Another thing about the lists, it helps guide the Dom on how to balance the likes with the maybes to provoke the emotional responses desired.

But there’s another point to remember when it comes to Limit lists. That there are things that are not wanted– ever. Respect comes into play here. A Dominant will talk out some of the negative items on the list and find out if they’re firm or if they’re soft in their never wanting to do something. Why? Sometimes these are fears– and with the use of aversion therapy, you can help someone learn to get over a fear. Some are deeply ingrained within the essence of a person– and those limits must be respected.

If you have a submissive who can’t handle being blindfolded because their eyes were covered when they were abused– then you can’t just expect the submissive to take that when the Dominant does it. It doesn’t work that way. Doesn’t matter the level of trust– this is an ingrained fear that is justifiable. A Dominant would take another tact to help bring about a comfort level with the submissive to approach this. They might have the submissive close his eyes and keep them closed. They might turn off all the lights but one, set behind the submissive to make it harder for the submissive to see. But at all times, the submissive’s fears are ALWAYS taken in consideration!

What goes into a scene- depends on the needs and desires of both parties. Yes, you can come up with something on the fly, but when you can have proper preparation– it’s wondrous to see how events play out. For me, it’s picking the music, the items to be used in the scene, and putting together the basic scenario for my submissive. This gets me worked up and I’ll mentally run through all possible variations and what I need to watch for.

Think of your favourite sexual fantasy– then think on how you can make it into reality. What would you need? What isn’t humanly possible? What would it take for you to get in order to make it workable for your needs? Discuss it with your lover and plan it out. Then you plan out your lover’s fantasy next. By doing these things– you’ll learn the basics of scening in the BDSM world.

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